19-year-old shames mother for having 3 children by 3 different members of the same family and for marrying his aunt: 'My mother had a child with my grandfather, then she had a thing with my uncle.'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Dec 5, 2025 11:00 AM EST

It's Jerry Springer's world, and he's just living in it.

It's generally a good rule of thumb to avoid telling others how to live their lives. If your college friend is considering becoming a monk and you think that's a weird choice, you could tell him that you think it's a terrible idea, or you could let him live his life because he knows what's best for him more than you do. The latter will probably help your friendship more than criticizing him from a judgmental place. If he's not hurting anybody, then what's the harm?

Of course, there are exceptions to this rule. If the way that someone else is living their life is affecting your life negatively, it's not always the worst idea to let them know. If your roommate is playing loud video games until 2 AM, it's not an infringement on their freedom to ask them to keep it down while you're trying to sleep. If your roommate complains that you're keeping them from "living their life," they have some serious growing up to do. 

Not all relationships give both parties an equal chance to take umbridge. Parents won't often take their children's grievances about their personal life seriously, even if they really should.

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  • The mom in this story won't let common sense, society, or her son tell her that what she's doing is wrong. She keeps having relationships with members of the same family, and she thinks nothing of it.

  • Am I the bad guy for shaming my mother for having three kids with three different members of the same family and marrying another member of that family?

    My dad dated my mother for 10 years or thereabouts. They had me when they were 25 and they broke up when I was 6 because my mom was having an affair with my grandfather (dad's father). My dad left mom and he refused to have anything to do with his father again. He continued to share custody of me though and he ended up with primary custody when I was 12.
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  • My mother had a child with my grandfather, "Ella" who was born when I was 7. Then my mother had a thing with my uncle (dad's brother) and had a kid with him. "Troy" was born when I was 10.
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  • My grandfather and uncle are both deadbeats to Ella and Troy. For years my mother tried to make dad have a relationship with both Troy and Ella but he refused and he told her she could go to hell. My dad hates my mother and is repulsed by her actions. They fought over it a few times when my mother said it was unfair to make me miss out on a happy family.
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  • When Troy was just a baby my mother started dating my aunt (dad's sister) and then they got married. My aunt used to join my mother in trying to make dad play some sort of role in the lives of my mother's other kids. My aunt used to give me hell for "getting into adult business" too.
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  • I found it so weird that my mother dated and had kids with people in mine and dad's family and then married my aunt. My aunt said it was none of my business and she called me a brat and my father's son for making a big deal out of it. Then she used to get annoyed that I still called her my aunt.
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  • It was a combination of all of this and the fact I didn't want to live with my mother that led dad to getting primary custody of me. I still had to spend one weekend a month at my mother's house but it was better than 50% of the time.
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  • My mother and my aunt never expressed any issue with my grandfather or uncle being involved in the lives of the kids they made. But my dad was the one in the wrong for not having a relationship.
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  • When I turned 17 (19 now) I told my mother I was done going to her house and I was done having a relationship. She tried to force me back but failed and she tried really hard to have contact with me in some way but I blocked her and my aunt.
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  • A few weeks ago she showed up at the mall where I work and she followed me around after my shift ended and demanded we talk. She told me I couldn't keep avoiding her and that Ella and Troy missed me and wanted to see me. She started screaming at
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  • me about what a good mother she was and how I had no reason to go no contact like I did. She told me I had some weird obsession with taking dad's side and it should stop.
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  • I told her she didn't give a single shit about me when she cheated on dad with my grandfather and made a baby or when she made another baby with my uncle. I asked her if she realized how fucking weird it was that she had three kids with three different members of the same family. I
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  • asked her if she cared what that would do to the kid she had before all of this. Then I mentioned how it got even weirder when she married my aunt. I told her it fucked up all the relationships and I was expected to not have any thoughts or feelings on it beyond yay and I said that wasn't the reality. Then I
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  • told her I was embarrassed to be her son and that I wanted nothing more to do with any of then except for dad. I told her dad was my family and she needed to leave the two of us alone.
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  • Her and my aunt confronted dad after work a few days later and they accused him of poisoning me and raising me wrong because how dare I shame my mother like that. They told him he was the reason the family didn't work. It pissed me off but dad took care of it so I didn't get involved further.
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  • My mother showed up another day I was working and she told me I need to get off my high horse and stay out of her bedroom. Then she told me I have another sibling on the way (aunt's pregnant) and that I need to get over myself and come be a good brother and apologize for treating her like a shit stain on my underwear.
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  • AITAH? Because technically I did say all that I did to shame her and to let her know I was ashamed of her and maybe that's not the way to go. I did end up getting security involved the second time so I didn't say more.
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  • Bubbly_Chicken_9358 I generally think what happens between consenting adults is no one else's business. But in your case, your mother's choice of bed partners directly impacted you. She had an affair with her partner's father, his brother, and then married his sister. That is going to create some serious issues for the children, and it is right and reasonable that you call her on that behavior. NTA.
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  • OP Kacehohn It already has. I'm not sure if my half siblings know all the details but I don't think they do. One day they'll find it out though and it's going to be weird. And it was very weird to grow up knowing about it all.
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  • Exotic-Rooster4427 Tell her she needs to stay in her own bedroom and not the bedrooms of your grandad, uncle and aunt. Tell her she created this toxicity and you were forced to be a part of it for your childhood but you don't want to be a part of it anymore. Until she takes accountability for her actions and stops blaming others she will not have a future in your life and you will be damned if you are being their free babysitter to their newborn. Tell her if she comes to your place of work to ha
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  • OP Kacehohn Even if she admitted she fucked up I don't want to be a part of the family she's made/making still. It's too weird for me and she blames dad for so much of it which makes it worse.
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  • Vestiel A few weeks ago there was similar story about a son that cut off his mom after she married his grandfather (his dad was dead, no cheating involved). That woman also didn't understand how fucked up the situation was. So I will just repeat what I wrote then: your mom is absolute disgusting human being. Your dad's family is also disgusting. The fact that your mom had your nephews, uncles, cousins and halfsibling is just so messed up. Time to cut her off. Tell her that you are done with her
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  • bino0526 I'm hearing Deliverance banjos & 5 5 5 !!!!
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  • sog96 Poor kids, when they have to go to school and do family tree project it will just be a family tree trunk.
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  • FrostiePi Unfortunately your family tree is a bit like a wreath at this point and your mother is the doorknob they are all having a turn on. The fact she doesn't like being told that doesn't make you an asshole. So NTA. You are now old enough she cannot force you to have a relationship. And the fact they have another on the way may be why they pushing so hard. They need a babysitter.
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  • PuzzleheadedData3023 YTA for making me read all that Jerry Springer shit.
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